Thursday, 19 November 2009

Last chance to enter my giveaway!

Happy Friday everybody! As I am writing this, I am reflecting on the week gone by and hope that you have all had a good one! Don't forget that this is the last chance to enter my giveaway - I will announce the winner in next Fridays post.  For the early birds who commented first thing last week, You may not have seen this patchwork  and stitchery which I added later as I had forgotten to put it on!



 Don't forget there will be a few other goodies in your parcel too besides what I have already shown. Anyone new?  Have a look at my last post to see what I am giving away!

Hey! Look what arrived in the post! I was lucky enough to win this fabulous giveaway from Aunt Spicy. I will use this gorgeous bag to do my bits and bobs of shopping! Anyone living in Lancashire, watch out for me sporting this lovely little number!



Also in my parcel were these......




Yes! a rather yummy selection of chocolates and a cupcake party pack! Now! You are know what I will be doing ... shopping for ingredients for cupcakes, carrying them home in my nifty shopper ( which says on it , the Sur la table - art of cooking!) and displaying my creations in those lovely festive cupcake cases with a delightful santa or xmas tree sign to top them off! And of course, munching on chocolate too! Thank you so much Aunt Spicy, you are a darling! Please go and visit her, she will always make you welcome and her blog is a delight! Spicy had also included and written this lovely little sweet handmade card which I will keep forever and proudly display here where every one can see it!



 


It was so exciting to recieve this in the post Spicy! You really are so kind! A BIG kiss to you!

The post before last I talked about invisible friends and this post is about invisible people!

As I was walking to the post office to post a parcel full of fairies  (I really don't know why they couldn't fly there! What is the point of having those tiny wings?  It was awfully windy though.  so....)













Anyway, as I was walking I was thinking about when I was a teenager. Yes I can just about remember that long ago, just after the wheel had been invented I think! The teens can be a difficult age for some, or many! My early teens were like that a bit, I hadn't wanted to leave Canada, and then I found it hard to settle in high school.


             This was my town in Canada - Port Mulgrave in Nova Scotia!

As a matter of fact I found school excruciatingly painful - I was shy, I was bullied and became a bit of a loner. I felt unable to confide in my Mum for quite some time, as I felt that as she was a teacher, she would march in there and it would become worse than ever, so I suffered in silence, dreaded school each day and cried myself to sleep at night. I remember saying to myself, that I didn't need anyone.

I think I have said before that as a philosophy I really gel well with buddhism. One of the meditations is that all day you focus on every task to the exclusion of anything else, so lets say I am cutting out a piece of lovely fabric, I must meditate on the task, but also be thankful. Thankful and mindful of all the work and all of the people's lives that have gone into that one piece, the cotton being picked, the factory, the dyes, the designer, etc., You get the drift? Then there are the scissors. Who made them and what materials were used, and how many lives were involved in that process?


 
                                 Hi  ho! Hi ho! Its off to work we go!

All around us, every day, we are affected by other people, invisible people. People, without whom we would not have shoes on our feet, food on the table, a roof over our heads.... in fact we would be sat about with not a lot! Even the seat I am sat on, I couldn't make myself. Oh yes I could sit on a rock, but I wouldn't have my computer to write this blog! We rely on so many invisible people!  The point being of course, that each and every one of us really do need each and every one of us!!! So my teenager me was a bit off the mark really! I try to remember to do this now and then. It is humbling and helps to remind myself how even the most simple thing I own is wrapped up with someone elses lives and history, and to appreciate even the smallest thing, because in actuality every small thing is in fact a big thing! We truly are all connected and without sounding too gushing, we all gaze up at the same moon!



My teenage me, you will be pleased to hear, found a really good friend, who is still my friend  - my soul sister! And on a windy cold day on the hockey field, I mustered up the courage to ask one of my bullies why she did it. She was a little taken aback to say the least and there was a silence for a moment as she studied me (like I was a specimen!). Then she told me, she said it was because I was different! Well, I did have a Canadian accent, was very skinny, little, flat chested, a bit of a dreamer, artisitc and had victim stamped to my forehead!
For a second I felt quite hurt, and then like a light bulb coming on, I thought ... well I am glad then, because if I was like you, I would be a spiteful bully of a person! I had desperately wanted to fit in, and then in a moment saw that maybe it was sometimes good not to! A valuble lesson indeed!



 After that, I started building up a good strong sense of humour, and decided that from then on, if there was something to cry over, I would try to see the bright side instead! On the whole I think I have managed to do that! I have no ill feelings toward the perpetrators, after all they must have had problems themselves to act in such a way. Years later one of them asked me out for a drink. Curious, I agreed, and it turned out that she had felt tormented by her actions for all those years, and asked me to forgive her! my heart just melted! How lovely! Of course I had actually forgiven her years before that! But it was a wonderful and brave thing for her to do!

Now I wonder how much work and how many people it took to make these delightful tins in red and white?



These tins were from Laura Ashley, there is a sale on at the moment. I also got this polka dot oversized mug.... .....




And from Lakeland I got this little lady who is also a money box too! .......





Guess what? I like red!!!! It is such a cheery colour and I find that little splashes of it in my home makes everything brighter and happier looking. Maybe red reminds me of childhood - those lovely red shoes!



What ever the reason is for my liking red, I love it and find myself completely drawn towards it! I also love blue, and if a certain shade of blue gets together with a certain shade of red, I can go into a hypnotic gaze of awe and wonder!  Sad I know, but I get a kind of excited feeling in my tum!  What colour/s are you all drawn to the most?

Thats all for this week! Remember to pop back next week to find out who the winner of my giveaway is!
Until then remember to embrace the little things, and have a wonderful weekend and week to come.

Love and joy to you all, Suzie.  :) xxx

36 comments:

  1. What a humbling post Suzie, very true, I think invisible people are sometimes more important than the real people, its not what you see but what you don't see that matters.

    I adore your fairy hearts, so beautiful, do you sell tham, let me know if you do ;)

    And the yummy pretties from LA, I love it there at sale time.

    Hugs and love

    Mary

    X

    ReplyDelete
  2. That was a wonderful post. I think we can all relate to feelings of growing up and changing. I really like myself now but when I think back to some of my school age years, I was not the person I was meant to be. Red is my color, too! I love pops of red throughout my house! I went back to make sure I entered the giveaway! I am excited! I love everything you make!

    ReplyDelete
  3. Hi Suzie,

    Thanks for sharing this very personal post. I can totally relate - I was a bit of loner when I was a teenager too. I was rather shy as well. I love red as well - its bold and empowering and happy. :) Did I tell you that I wore ruby red slippers for Halloween? They were beautiful and made me feel quite magical.
    I definitely did enter your giveaway...thanks for posting the rest of the lovelies here in this post. Hope you entered mine! :)
    Bye for now...talk to you soon! Theresa

    ReplyDelete
  4. Suzie I can't wait until your giveaway yeah it's exciting.


    I am sorry to hear about your teen years, it is extremely dificult for many children going through adolescents as it is and to get bullied it makes it an even more stressful time. Many teens need someone or a parent to talk to and do not find that, its a hard time. My school studies are centered around adolescent developement and I am going to work in a Behavorial Health center when I graduate to help other teens in trouble, and don't know how to really get out what they want to say. I think our society needs to realize they are the one's who will run our country one day :0) Hopefully.

    I think it is wonderful that you turned out great, and that is nice that you agreed to speak with one of the bullies and call them out. You go girl.


    ஐƸ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒஐღ ღஐƸ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒஐ Heidi ღஐƸ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄ƷஐღღஐƸ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒஐ

    ReplyDelete
  5. What a beautiful and thougtful post. I look forward to your posts every week. (and I am keeping my fingers crossed for the next, heehee!!) You have a wonderful perspective on things, and I wish more people were like you!
    I love all dark 'earth' colors- browns, greens, rusty colors (even a touh of gold!)... It doesn't surprise me that you like red and blue so much! Comsic colorolgy would suggest someone that likes red has a passionate, cheerful disposition, and if blue is your color, you are intuitive and artistic. I would surely say you are all of those things! What do you know? :)

    ReplyDelete
  6. Your post made me cry - I was reading about me, except I never had the courage to ask why I was bullied.

    ReplyDelete
  7. Good morning Suzie, I always look forward to your weekly post, as I see me in so much of you or visa versa!! I too was a lonsome teen and still find it hard to open to up to people. I would rather give all my trust and love to my family in the knowledge that they will be 100% there for me. I dont trust easily. I live very near a little village called Port Mulgrave in North Yorkshire - yes more co-incidences!!

    I was bullied, due to the fact I was different, they called me toffee nosed and TBH I just blocked it out.

    I knew your tins were from Laura Ashley, as I had been window shopping!

    With regards to colours, my favs change with the seasons.

    Take care and have a wonderful weekend

    ReplyDelete
  8. What a wonderful post. Many teens find themselves out-of-the-loop & don't handle it as well as you. Congratulations to you on being able to figure yourself out. Many still can't....
    Loved your post!!
    Hugs,
    Marilyn

    ReplyDelete
  9. A really interesting and thoughtful post - I really try to practise the habit of mindfulness when I knit, but am not so good on the day to day stuff, but it is a habit that is very good for one's mental health. And it is amazing how thinking about why things happen and why we have reacted in a particular way is the route to acceptance and resolution, and the way to find an inner strength unassailable by others. I, too, have found out that you end up feeling compassion for others rather than anger, which must be a good thing. It is also a very salutary lesson to think about the invisible people who have made our comforts possible, and does prompt us to think about the consequences of our consumption. You have definitely been very profound today, and I have really enjoyed your profundity - something for me to aim for!

    And I also love your little stitchy patchwork at the top - those are my sentiments entirely!

    Pomona x

    ReplyDelete
  10. Great post as usual - your posts always leave me with things to think about. I love the idea of invisible people. You're right, we take so much for granted and never take the time out to think about what's gone in to what we're using.

    In an hour or so I'm going to go and have my daily tea and toast break. Who was it who baked the bread? Which farmer grew the wheat? Who picked the raspberries in my jam? So much to think about!!

    Well done to the teenage you for having the courage to ask your bullies why. I had an ongoing tussle with a 'friend' at school who one day just stopped talking to me and didn't speak a single word to me for over 2 years! Then as quickly as she stopped she started again! It took about 6 months for me to ask her why she'd done it and you know what she said to me? She couldn't remember!! She couldn't remember why she'd caused me so much pain and upset. Absolutely insane.

    And I agree with you - always take the funny route out of any pain - if you can make a joke, even if your heart isn't fully in it, it can have an amazing effect on you and make you feel better.

    (I have my fingers secretly crossed for the giveaway!)

    ReplyDelete
  11. What a sit-down-and-take-stock post. Very thought-provoking. I think it's close to the Native Americans' way of saying thank you before a meal to the animal who gave its life to feed them. I sometimes remember to do that while I cook.
    Beautiful things in your pics. I'm envious of your stitchery! xx

    ReplyDelete
  12. Hi Suzie, I'm in sympathy with you as I have always been bullied in my life (still now)..envious and ignorant people, they don't deserve other words.
    Have a lovely weekend! :)

    ReplyDelete
  13. You gush away.....I love your gushing! Always thought provoking, always interesting.
    My colour is red too....just love it, from trinkets to clothes. Have a great weekend...XXX

    ReplyDelete
  14. susie your posts always make me feel warm and fuzzy, and thinking back to happy memories, i love popping by your blog! have a lovely weekend, fliss xx

    ReplyDelete
  15. Love your work, as always :)Seeing a bright and funny side to most things in life is definitely the way to go, I try to do it all the time and it hardly ever fails. Keep smiling and keeping making those beautiful things, you're making so many people smile :)

    ReplyDelete
  16. You have gained so much insight in your life. Thanks for sharing it with us.

    ReplyDelete
  17. Just wanted you to know, I know how you feel. I am so sorry for what happen to you. You are a talented person who God loves dearly. I love the color red as well. Blessings to you this day, Martha

    ReplyDelete
  18. What a lovely post...you always have the best insights into life! I am so glad the little package made it there and you like everything! It wasn't much but still fun! And I am so jealous of the Laura Ashley tins! I did buy the red and white polka dot pitcher and am so in love with it. Red and White. That is my fav color!

    ReplyDelete
  19. OMG I'm back!!!!!
    Good blog, matey! Funnily enough I was thinking of 'invisible people' this week - I read something somewhere, and it got me thinking same way as you! Know how it was for you at school - I was the outcast because of living with my Grandparents! Because they were a whole 2 generations behind, I always dressed rather old fashioned and everyone used to laugh at my clothes! Esp. when winkle pickers came (back)in fashion, and Grandma said she wasn't buying me any, because she had a pair of her own I could wear! AND I WORE THEM TO SCHOOL!!!! You can imagine the ribbing I took over that! Actually I didn't care - I LOVED being the outsider, the weirdo, left of centre and nothings changed! Till your next blog - oh, and will have to try and pay attention to my own! love ya, Ro. xxxxxxxxxxx

    ReplyDelete
  20. Hi Suzie, I am suffering from a nasty cold so didn't visit yesterday. What an honest and soul searching post you have here. You're such a gently but strong spirited gal. I adore you. They say what doesn't kill us makes us stronger and it's funny how we have long ago forgiven but the memories will come flooding back and though they have lost their sting, we still keep them in a little box within. And your Reds............to me there is no happier color. Other colors provoke feelings, but to get the happy and frisky one, you need red. Happy weekend, Mollye

    ReplyDelete
  21. What a lovely post as usual, you always make me think about things in a different way. I too like red, I never used to but as I have got older it has become one of my favourite colours. My wardrobe is full of it and it is dotted around my house especially in my kitchen which has a very red theme ! It always makes feel cheerful and it is seems to represent life and energy. Have a great weekend.
    Ann x

    ReplyDelete
  22. Ah Suzie,

    Your positivity just shines out through this post, I sometimes wish I was invisible, especially when there is too much to do, like now!

    Sarah x

    ReplyDelete
  23. You are a lucky woman! you win so many giveaways! I am waiting to win my first one... maybe it will be yours! ;O))))
    You are a very positive person, that's the most important weapon for any difficulty in life, isn't it!? ;O) (By the way, I adore red colour too!)

    ReplyDelete
  24. Great post. I was bullied at school, I'm not sure why but I was quite shy so perhaps that was it. The bully recently contacted me via Friends Reunited and her email was entitled 'Making Amends'! At first I felt obliged to reply but then thought of all the misery she'd caused me. I know it's not a nice thing to think but I was glad that she felt bad about it and I didn't reply and I hope it still bothers her!
    I think I could do to look at Buddhism. Hubby goes to a buddhist meditation class and it sounds very interesting. I've been recommended 'Buddhism for Mothers' so hopefuly Santa will be dropping that down my chimney shortly.

    ReplyDelete
  25. What a brave and story and what a special person you are, well done for not becoming bitter or broken, not that you could be blamed for being either!Hope life brings you everything you deserve and more!!! Happy Monday.Sharon xox

    ReplyDelete
  26. I loved your post! I can relate to a lot of the things you are saying here! And, of course, we share the love of RED. Touches of RED, the right sort of RED, with naturals/neutrals and the right sort of BLUE, here and there. Love your tins, love the spotty mug, love those RUBY SLIPPERS!!

    Please may I join in your giveaway?
    Thank you!

    Carolyn
    LOVE STITCHING RED

    ReplyDelete
  27. I always like to think that the suffering we go through helps us be more sensitive to the suffering of others. You are proof of that dear Suzie as you are one of the kindest people I know.
    I don't mean to toot my own horn, but an old high school friend got in touch with me recently and told me that he was tormented years ago in school and I was the one kind person in his life and he wanted to thank me. I was touched!
    I love red too-it goes so well with my favorite color green-and this time of year red and green are popping up everywhere!
    Have a good week!

    ReplyDelete
  28. Thank you everybody, It cheers me greatly to read all your kind and thoughtful comments! suzie. xxx

    ReplyDelete
  29. Suzie, you are so heart warming...your heart jumps around from thought to thought and makes us all think and thunk and go kerplunk. Life is good hanging out with you. You are full of delight! I especially loved the story of forgiving...awesome. Stay put, I'll be back to ya!

    ReplyDelete
  30. What a wonderful post. I think so many of us have incidents at school that have affected the adult us. I certainly have, though like you I bear no grudges over it - I simply see it as teenagers with raging hormones, though at the time it was miserable. Most of my school years were fine however... but I can relate to feeling different. Maybe more of us feel this way than we think.
    Thank you for such a thoughtful post. x

    ReplyDelete
  31. Oh Suzie I can't believe I haven't popped by since I got home - so sorry.

    You are so forgiving ...I'm not sure if I could forgive a bully but I do try to see " the Bigger Picture " as to why people do things. There is usually a reason.

    Wee Man stands up for friends being picked on & I'm so proud of him for this.

    It's awful how it haunts us for life but as you say the one inflicting the pain is haunted too. I'm glad you were able to have a drink with that girl.

    I admire your way of thinking about things which is quite a disipline - this is where your interest in Buddism comes in - very disiplined - we talk about it in T'ai Chi ...I'm too dreamy !

    I like a reddish brown brick red.

    ReplyDelete
  32. Hi Suzy,

    What lovely hearts, just love those fairies, even if they are on a flying strike.

    Another lovely post. How amazing that someone who did that to you wanted to meet up in later life for forgiveness. Most people of that ilk probably never realise the damage they do, let alone feel guilty for it.

    I agree that red does tend to pop up a lot in our home too. Its such a warm cosy but dramtic colour. It goes with quite a lot of other colours as well.

    Hope you have a great week.



    MBBx

    ReplyDelete
  33. Can't believe another week has flown past! Hope you have had a lovely one Suzie - the fairy hearts are abolsutely gorgeous! Also loving your cupcake goodie bag. If you are close enough to Mawdesley in Lancashire the weekend before Christmas, Cedar Farm are running two Xmas evening markets from 3.30pm -6.30pm - I will be on one of the stands with my Dolliedaydream cupcakes!

    ReplyDelete

I love getting comments and I read and appreciate every one of them. I always try to answer them, but if you don't get a response it will be because I couldn't find a link to you. Suzie. XXX :)